Wednesday, June 9 |

Devo 2

Reporting for Duty


Do this devo on the floor right next to your bed so that you can discuss your bed without being in it. 

listen to the music

It's good for a man to have a wife, and for a woman to have a husband. Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder. The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality - the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to "stand up for your rights". Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. Abstaining from sex is permissible for a period of time if you both agree to it, and if it's for the purposes of prayer and fasting - but only for such times. Then come back together again. Satan has an ingenious way of tempting us when we least expect it. (I Cor. 7:2-5)

what we hear

We know the guys are loving this one! "Honey, you know what Paul wrote: Saying no to sex is OK only if you're praying or fasting". In fact, while we were in the process of writing this book, our church was in the middle of a corporate fast from certain foods and from sex. (We must add that this verse was of little comfort to us at the time!) As husbands and wives, we belong to each other, but Paul tempers that with his reminder in I Corinthians 13 that love "does not demand its own way" (vs5 NLT). The directive of the passage in I Corinthians 7 isn't so much a  "rule" about having sex (or not) as it is about mutual submission and guarding fidelity. In this spirit, an interruption of the regularity of marital sex ought to be agreed upon and only for spiritual purposes where denial of the flesh is profitable for spiritual empowerment. The word used in the New International Version for "abstaining from sex" is deprive, which denotes "robbery" of something that rightfully belongs to your spouse. So have you been a love thief lately? The marriage bed may be a place of "duty", but if only all our duties in life were this enjoyable!

what do you hear?

Think about the beds you've slept in during your marriage. Which has been your favorite? Do you like your current bed? Why or why not?

How could you make what goes on between you in your bed a more direct extension of your spiritual life together? 

What can you give your lover that you may have been withholding? 

extended play

This might be a great time to think about making your "marriage bed" your favorite place to be. Invest in the best sheets you can afford. Kick the distractions out of the bedroom. Make it a shrine to your love.
                      Make the bed together - then have fun unmaking it. 


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